Get Out of Your Own Head

Today’s entrepreneur is all about getting their share of the market to which they serve.  To be the best, top dog, leader of the pack.  So you want to be the best at what you do?  Then get out of your own way by getting out of your own head!

 Simply put, you sometimes can be your own worst enemy.  Borderline personality disorders can receive treatment for their maladies through a series of “state of mind” exercises that focus on the moment; without the use of heavy thought.

 Entrepreneurs can benefit from these just as well as those suffering some form of borderline mental illness. In my experience, more entrepreneurs display ADHD tendencies regularly.   Next time you find yourself paralyzed from analysis, or worrying yourself to inaction, try getting out of your head.  Here are some tools to help.

 Presence of Mind

 Focus on an experience, not allowing a reaction to the matter.  For instance, you are jogging along a wooded path.  Notice that you are jogging, but not how you are feeling about the activity.  Notice the flowers, the squirrels playing, children laughing, but not how you FEEL about it all.   Don’t focus on how your legs feel, your thirst, the time of day. Control your attention, but not what you see or hear.  Don’t try to separate one from the other, single out one aspect of the activity, just be in the moment.  Don’t try to hang on to any of the experience, just let it flow in you and then out.  Don’t let it stick.

 Being alert to your surroundings, thoughts, actions and how you are handling them.  If you were a security guard, focus on the “it” without anything added to it.  Example: You see a squirrel on your jog; notice it, but don’t try to guess what it will do.  Whether it runs along the path or darts up the tree doesn’t matter to you.  Don’t allow yourself to guess its actions.   

 Be content without the content.  If a thought or feeling arises in your mind, acknowledge it.  Put a name on your thought.  “My calf muscles are beginning to cramp, or I can’t seem to concentrate,” are thoughts and feelings.  That’s all they are, call them what they are without focusing on the content of those thoughts or feelings.  Focus on the statement, not the emotional or physical feelings they might present. 

 Become one with the activity or experience; total immersion.  Get lost in it, forgetting yourself and all of what you cling to.  Practice the activity until muscle memory takes over.  Don’t focus on “how” you’re doing, focus on the “doing.”  Practice your thought skills until they are part and parcel of your conscious being.


 Place your focus on the matter at hand.  Don’t bother with “would’a, could’a, should’a.  Now is not the time to evaluate, just stick to the issue.  If   is an awfully big word when trying to get to the root of a particular problem, challenge or issue.  Stay away from even trying to think about it.  Keep things simple and to the point, without all of the evaluative processes.

If   if’s and but’s were candies and nuts, then everyday would be Christmas.”  How true.

Tackle one task at a time.  If it is time to eat; eat.  Time to sleep; sleep.  Play, then  play.  Focus on the exact issue without distraction.  If you need to speak to an individual or within a group activity, focus on the exact words being spoken, the inflections, the body language.  Don’t try to evaluate or guess on what isn’t being said; focus. 

 If in the planning stage you begin to think about other things, how effective will your plan be?  Work when you work, plan when you plan, speak when you speak and listen when you listen.  Do each individual task as if nothing else matters and you’ll be more effective.

 Failsafe tactic. Most of us have been taught to multi-task.  This is not the time for that.  If you find distracting thoughts or actions splitting your attention, start over knowledgeable of the split.  Focus on one thing at a time!


 Assuming all things equal, don’t be judgmental.  I’m Okay; You’re Okay is the line of thought worth pursuing. Disconnect your opinions from the facts.  Facts are just that, facts.  They aren’t somebody’s version; they are the facts and should be treated without opinion, emotion, like, dislike, or any other “Judgmental” reaction. Focus on the facts, the “what” instead of the “the good or bad.” 

When listening, don’t judge anything; not the speaker, the words spoken, the topic.  Accept the facts for what they are, and don’t get caught up in the emotional aspects.  Disconnect your judging from your thinking.  “Judge as you would be judged” is Biblical, and truer words were never spoken.  If you find yourself judging, stop, acknowledge the judgment and clear your mind of such thoughts.  Focus.

Getting out of your own head is a lot tougher than it may appear.  It takes concentration, repetition, focus and forgiveness.  Forgiving yourself for getting off track, wavering in your resolve and needs perseverance to the task.  Given time, however, you can master anything.


About davidjdunworth

Dunworth’s success comes from a simple belief; “I can sleep when I am dead; then there will be plenty of time for that!” Since the door to door days of his youth, Dunworth has opened, managed and sold more than 25 businesses, and works as a consultant to entrepreneurs and emerging enterprises. His advice for entrepreneurs desiring to grow quickly: “Find the busiest man or woman you can find and enlist their support. You’d be amazed at the results.”
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1 Response to Get Out of Your Own Head

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